Fishy Part Dos

So, I wanted to write lots of cool stuff about sea life. I wanted to do a little bit of research and WOW you all with my extensive knowledge of fish and other ocean creatures, but life has been busy. I finally figured out that if I waited till I had time to research, this blog would never get written. And frankly, I've had about 4 other blog ideas, which I've neglected to share because the fish thing had to come first. So in an attempt to dig myself out of a hole that I DUG..here is the "not so impressive, and certainly not as cool as I wanted it to be" part TWO!


Schooling Fish:

Yep, there are actually fish called that. I expect that all the people that are smart enough to read my blog are also smart enough to know what "schooling" means without me explaining it. In the dating world, they are the ones that follow the crowd. The aren't trendsetters, they never venture to the cutting edge of life. Rather they stay in the security of what is familiar. They are not risk takers. They rarely take a CHANCE on love. Not that they don't experience love, but it's always with someone that is "Safe." I suppose there's nothing wrong with that kind of person or that kind of love, except that it is driven by fear rather than faith. I believe that love and faith go hand in hand, so while these fish may experience a kind of love, perhaps they never experience the deepness of emotion that comes with reaching outside of your comfort zone. Now, I am not referring to them dating “dangerous” people, but rather putting themselves into a situation that is NOT predictable. Maybe factoring in more of their feelings into a decision rather than their usual unbalanced "I use my head, not my heart" way of thinking. It could help them break free of the proverbial box that their mindset has held them prisoner in for so long.

The Puffer fish:

Okay, I'm not sure if that's the technical term or not, but you all know what fish I'm talkin' about. As a form of defense it puffs itself up with air and literally inflates it's entire body to appear as a larger threat to predators. Okay, so these are the people who are not what they seem. They appear to be over-confident, but do not be fooled, for it is but a farce. They are extremely cocky and they walk around like they own the place. They strut their stuff, acting as if they are a big fish in a little pond, when in fact they are a small fish in a big pond. Their over the top actions actually reveal their insecurities. They are afraid of anyone seeing how small and insignificant they are. The few people, who ever see past this facade and fall in love with the small fish, have to continually work on their relationship. They have to be constantly aware of the other person's insecurities and often spend most of their time and energy trying to build up that person's self-esteem to a place of stability for the relationship. These puffer fish kind of people need to stick with natural encouragers who don't find it taxing to give compliments till their blue in the face. Their mates also have to be really secure in themselves, because the puffer fish are so worried about themselves that they often overlook the emotional needs of others.

The Clown Fish:

Well, this may not be a true representation of a clown fish's actions, but it is a true representation of a kind of person. We all know and love someone who is a clown fish. They are the people that bring vibrant color to our cipiatone lives. They are the flamboyant personalities that many of us are attracted to, but few can put up with 24/7. The clown fish is usually easy going and has a positive outlook on life. They are eccentric, eclectic and most often very creative. The biggest problem with these fish is their inability to take anything other than their interests seriously. They have a problem with being self-centered and often get tunnel vision when working on a project. They are open to love, but only on their terms and on their timetable. They find it difficult, but NOT impossible to advance to deeper levels of friendship and or romance. However, once they do, they are extremely committed to their partners and often mate for life. They are creative lovers, which is a great reward for whoever was actually able to get through to the next level with this kind of person.

LAST ONE!

The Octopus:

I couldn't help myself. I had to talk about this one, against the advice of a good friend. LOL The octopus has eight arms. In a relationship with this kind of person you feel as if they have all eight of them wrapped around you at all times. They are not only touchy feely kind of people, but they are CLINGY! Octopi lurk in dark places where they cannot be seen. These are the stalkers. (Sting serenades us all.."Every move you make...I'll be watchin' you.") I hate to revisit the whole Dr. Phil moment I had earlier about insecurities, but ...these people JUST WANT TO BE LOVED! They are insecure about how they look, not to mention their stalker tendencies, which even scare THEM a little. They don't believe that anyone would ever CHOOSE to love them, so any fish that wanders within an arms (tentacles) reach, they grab onto for dear life! They never intend to hurt anyone in a relationship, and in fact will take all measures necessary to make their object of affection comfortable. Even if it means putting THEMSELVES in an UNcomfortable position. However, if their love interest isn't a good communicator, the octopus could literally smother their love life to death. If the other person in the relationship is willing to be patient and communicate, the octopus is capable of balancing out and being an attentive and genuine lover.

This really could go on forever. However, I'm choosing to STOP here. I know many of you are saying to yourself, "I'm not any of those!" To that I would reply..."Yes..I know...THERE ARE PLENTY OF OTHER FISH IN THE SEA